Saturday, June 14, 2014

Marriage is Hard-some

This past year I've been overwhelmed with Facebook posts and stories about marriages ending or people suddenly being "single" with no real show of sorrow.  I even saw one acquaintance out having a "divorce celebration party."

Now, I'm not naive.  I know that Facebook is such a superficial medium and it would be foolish for people to express every sadness or detail of a marriage falling apart...although some people do express WAY too much on there.  But what I've witnessed in the past months has seemed to be the opposite of what one would expect from people who are no longer with the person they promised to be with forever.  Happy images of dating new people, parties to celebrate being single, posts that put down or belittle their former spouse in subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) ways.

It just all breaks my heart.

In two months, Greg and I will be celebrating our 7th anniversary.  Statistically speaking we will have made it through the most difficult, most divorce prone years for marriages.  Thankfully, I can honestly say that there has not been one moment in the last seven years that divorce has even been a thought in my head.  Not to say that things have been perfect...because we are two very imperfect people living together.  Two imperfect people do not make one perfect marriage.

Because marriage is HARD.

But thankfully, marriage is also AWESOME.

From early in our engagement we have committed to keeping God in the center of our marriage and doing something each year of our marriage to work on/improve our relationship.  Whether that is going to a conference or reading a book on marriage together, we have been able to fulfill that commitment almost every year (in all honesty, parenting has made this much more difficult).  We've had some very difficult times in the past seven years from job losses to postpartum depression to just not connecting.  And despite those things (plus many others), I can honestly say that I love Greg more than the day we got married, I respect him more, and I love being married to him.

It's not always based on feelings.  Many times it's a choice I make to love & respect Greg and a choice to put up protections on our marriage so that we don't get into trouble or temptation.  And it has required us to talk and be honest with each other...even when it's painful.

And at the end of every day, I'm so glad to be ending it with him.

If you're married or getting married, be ready to have a "hard-some" time.  Make the choice to love.  Give up the right to be angry when they mess up.  Assume the best in your spouse.  Remember that you are on the same team.  And hopefully at the end of every day you will be happy with the one you are ending it with.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Our Whole 30 Journey


Yeah, so blogging has taken a back burner to parenting lately.  The most recent thing in our lives though, was the decision to complete a Whole 30.  I had seen some people I follow on Instagram doing this and started investigating.  From Whole30.com:

Established by Dallas and Melissa Hartwig (of Whole9) in April 2009, the Whole30® is our original nutritional program designed to change your life in 30 days. Think of it as a short-term nutritional reset, designed to help you put an end to unhealthy cravings and habits, restore a healthy metabolism, heal your digestive tract, and balance your immune system. - See more at: http://whole30.com/step-one/#sthash.FxZtlQt1.dpuf

I had been feeling very unhealthy and depressed about our lack of discipline and poor food choices and this sounded like a good fix for us.

And boy was it!!!!!

While following the rules of the Whole 30 can be frustrating and difficult at times, I have seen so many changes in my life because of 30 simple days.  The program really stresses paying attention to non-scale victories instead of the number on the scale.  So, I weighed myself the day we started and didn't do it again until the day after we finished.  In that time, here are some of the victories I experienced:


  • Easier time getting up in the morning
  • More energy during the day
  • No Dr. Pepper at all from Day 1
  • Clearer skin
  • Flatter stomach
  • Whiter teeth
  • Clothes fitting better -- in fact I have a pair of pants that I could barely get buttoned before we started and now they are loose fitting
  • More confidence in my appearance
  • Less suffering with allergies (could be the increase in temps...or it could be this)
  • Responding better to stress
  • Sleeping more soundly
  • More productive during the day
  • Snacking less
  • No food "side-effects" anymore
  • Learned a lot of new, awesome recipes
  • Even more knowledgeable about nutrition than when we started eating Paleo
As far as the scale victory goes, I managed to lose 15 pounds in 30 days.  Pretty pumped about that.

Along with the physical benefits I gained from this adventure, I also gained some awesome new recipes.  Here are the best ones that I used during our Whole 30:

Breakfasts:
Lunches:
Dinners:
These were not all the recipes I used but the ones I omitted were not very good.  The great thing about Whole 30 is once you start looking for resources, you'll find a wealth of people who have gone before you or are currently doing their own Whole 30 and have great ideas to share.  If you're not on Instagram, get on there because so many people post their meals with the #whole30.  It can be a great way to find inspiration and encouragement.

If you decide this is something you are going to try, tell people in your life exactly what and why you are doing it, be sure to read everything on the Whole 30 web site about starting, and believe in yourself that you can do this!  While it's only 30 days, the days can be very long.  Don't give up!!!  And good luck!

Thursday, February 6, 2014

2 Years

Yesterday marked 2 years since I found out I was pregnant with Joey.  Last year, at the one year mark, I was still in survival mode and I'm pretty sure that it came and went without much thought.  But this year, this year was different for me.  Yesterday was kind of a surreal day as I pondered over how much has changed in my life and the lives of those around me in just 2 short years.  The obvious change is Joey, of course, but so many other details of life shifted.

THEN: I was teaching 7th grade social studies full-time.
NOW: I hang out at home all day with Joey, have a chore list that I follow each week, cook A LOT, and design wedding albums part-time from my couch while watching shows on Netflix.

THEN: Greg was a full-time youth pastor, traveling for camps and mission trips, and working weird hours including weekends.
NOW: Greg is a mortgage loan guy who works a lot, is incredible at his job, and kicks it at home every weekend with us!

THEN: Morgan was living with us and studying for her MCAT exam while applying for Master's programs.
NOW: Morgan got her Master's degree and is living in Pennsylvania for medical school.  (She's pretty awesome!)

THEN: We had a cat.
NOW: Morgan has our cat. (It's ok...he liked her better anyways.)

THEN: On Greg's side of the family we had one beautiful niece with a nephew only a few days away.
NOW: Mady is going to turn 4 next month and Michael turns 2 in just a few days.  Craziness!!!!


I remember finding out I was for sure pregnant and did not (as I thought) have the flu.  The immediate thought was, "Oh shoot!  What if we're not really ready like we thought???  I guess it's too late now."  Then came all the excitement.  I woke Greg up from his nap to tell him and we celebrated in that way where you are excited and terrified in equal amounts.  Since then the journey of parenthood has had many ups and downs from weird sickness that could only be stopped by excessive eating to some pretty serious mood swings that to this day I stand firm "weren't that bad."  From a rough delivery, recovery, and post-partum depression to those amazing moments when Joey smiled at me, laughed after 20 minutes of me acting like a complete idiot, and kissed me back for the first time.  From scary tests at the hospital and feeding therapy to the complete and utter joy of watching my kid eat food like a normal person.  It's been such a fun, exhausting, emotional, love-filled, incredible, wouldn't-trade-it-for-anything experience!!!!!!!

I wonder what other changes I'll have to write about 2 years from now...


Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Next Month...

Today I was talking on the phone with Morgan and she made the following statement:

"Can you believe that NEXT MONTH you'll have a one-year-old?"

I was immediately taken back to a year ago when Morgan said to me:

"You know, now you can officially say that NEXT MONTH you'll have a baby."

Now, thankfully that actually happened a year ago.  That kid wanted to stay in there so long that I began to think he was never coming out.  But he finally did...9 days late.

These statements got me thinking though.  First, wow, Morgan is good at remembering that September is the month before big things happen with my kid.  Second, now she will have to do this every September, otherwise it will feel weird.  But mostly, NO I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT NEXT MONTH I WILL HAVE A ONE-YEAR OLD!!!!!!!

It's so crazy how quickly time goes by when you're looking back and how slow it feels when you're watching the clock sometimes.  There have been days as a stay-at-home mom that I felt would never end.  Yet, now I'm living in the month before my child turns one and it's a little hard to grasp.  I can't wait to celebrate next month that we have all made it an entire year!

Almost exactly one year ago.

About one week ago.

Friday, August 16, 2013

#20, #22, & #84 CHECK!!!!!!

I hadn't looked at my 101 List in a while so I was surprised to see that I had accomplished 3 of my goals without even realizing it.  So here are my most recent "checks:"


20. Visit Lana and John in CA

I actually checked this bad boy off back in February when we went to Disneyland with our Suiter clan.  John & Lana live about 45 minutes away from the park so we planned a dinner one of the nights we were there.  It was great because John and Greg had never met and James and Joey had never met.  Sadly, I didn't manage to take a single picture (which means it almost didn't happen) but I know that we were there and we had an awesome time.  Great food made my Lana, lots of wonderful conversation, and lots of laughs.  I can't wait until the next time we can see them!!!


22. Take a girls’ trip with my mom (probably to their cabin)

At the end of April, my mom and I headed up to her cabin in Show Low to do some spring cleaning and relax.  We had to take Joey with us, of course, but since he's just a little boy, I'm still counting this as a girls' trip.  We completed many hours of cleaning, some reading, lots of napping, and some fun times with our Show Low family.






84. Go to the shooting range

For Greg's birthday last year, he received a new handgun.  Since then I had wanted to go to the shooting range at some point to try it out for myself.  We also had some other guns that I had never shot.  So, in March we dropped Joey off with my mom and headed out to Usury Pass Shooting Range.  It was so much fun to try out all the different guns we have...my favorite was the .22 rifle.  (I think that's how you write it.)  I have some pictures but they are on Greg's phone so no such luck with getting them on the blog.  I'm a little bummed because I'm not going to lie, I was pretty BA.